Tuesday, July 8, 2008
I'm still here
Hi everyone! Every time I think of posting I'm away from my computer or I don't have my camera. Like everyone else, we had a pretty good 4th of July. Ruby is terrified of fireworks, so that kind of puts a damper on the day. Ruby has been officially punishing me ever since we got back from the cruise. To start, she is already very sensitive, especially with me. Every morning it is the same sad battle cry: "Mommy, you're not even going to work today!" "Mommy, please don't go to work today" "Mommy, will you stay with me?" "Mommy, are you leaving on the cruise?". I think I confuse her by telling her that I don't want to go to work. I want nothing more that to stay with my girls everyday - ok almost every day:). I want to share all their experiences. I want hold them tight and never let go. I want them to be happy and safe and not cry at the door ever time I take out the trash becasue they think I am leaving them. To top it off, she doesn't want to listen to me. The first night we were back, it was dinner time and she told me she didn't have to eat at the dinner table. Really??? She didn't have to take a bath. She didn't have to go to bed. She told she didn't have to listen and that she was going to put herself in time out. She was/is bossing me around - TAKE THE CUSHIONS OFF THE COUCH - GET MY MILK - and even opening the dvd cabinet to grab whatever she wants. It has been a long week and I am slowly "training" her back into being a good girl with MANNERS!!! Abby has been pretty emotional, too. The day after we got back she was stomping at my feet to pick her up, I picked her up - apparently not fast enough becasue she proceeded to slap me in the face. My mom seemed to think she didn't slap me, but I know Abby and I KNOW that was a slap. Things are finally calming down, but now I feel like I can't ever go anywhere. Kim invited me to Happy hour last night at the Crab Pot on the water - I wanted to go so bad, but the guilt is going to be embedded in me for awhile. Kelly wants me to go to the Dodger game tonight: sorry Kel, I can't do that either. Things are getting better and tomorrow I am not working. I am taking the girls to the bay to meet up with the "Wednesday Beach Club". I am just not used to having a defiant child... any suggestion? Am I too hard on her? Do I expect to much? I hate to say anything negative about Ruby becasue she is truly such a sweet child, but this test is really pushing my buttons. HELP!
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I still think that 3 is way worse than 2, hopefully it is just a phase and not the "terrible three's", or it could be a long year!
I'm with Kim - 3 with Kade is going to put me over the edge. He's doing a lot of the exact same things: saying "No! you do it." Last night we spent 1.5 hrs outside because he threw something inappropriately( which he frequently does ) and he refused to pick it up. We stayed outside while the others went inside to play and eat, until he decided he would pick up what he threw around the yard. Fun stuff. My only advise is consistency as much as possible. It may take a lot of time, but this is where we have to stand our ground. My frequent question I make Kyla answer when she gets out of line with her attitude is: "Who is the mom, and who is the daughter?" The leaving drama is hopefully a phase that will pass soon (o:
Well guys,i hate to break it to you...you may want to saddle up for a long year cuz i found that three was way worse than two. I remember thinking when gavin was three.."how come no one ever told me about the terrible threes??!". The good thing is, they are growing up and they really are beginning to understand the "why" factor of rules, and the more consistent you stay the more it will sink in and life will be better in the long run. I have to say, even though i felt 3 was the toughest year with my sweet gavin, his behavior now goes in about 6 mo cycles, and just when i i start to let up and think i have this parenting thing down, he switches it up on me and i have to go back to being firm and consistent. Cherish these years, although they can be tough, they are filled with such precious memories that go by so quickly. Good luck, i'll be there again soon with my darling addison. I can't wait! :)
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